Finding a Couples Counselor/Couples Therapist

How Do You Know Who's the Best Couples Counselor For Your Needs?

Here in Coral Springs, Florida we have lots of families. Coral Springs has been the destination for couples with children for decades. With its strict building codes, many schools, shopping centers and sports leagues, its family friendly atmosphere gives the impression that all is well here. However, we all know that behind some of those closed doors, couples are struggling to put it all together. Despite the external trappings, some partners are lonely and in pain, and long to be better connected to their significant other. There is a lot to be gained by getting outside help. It’s important though to get support that will best benefit your relationship. If you're looking for marital therapy, I'd like to help you figure that out.

Just search Couples Counselor Coral Springs, and you will see hundreds of couples counselors/couples therapists. You'll see lots of smiling faces and nice people. But, who will be the best suited for your needs? Here are some tips I would give friends or family members who are considering getting help in their relationship.

Know that there are as many different types of couples counselors as there are couples counselors. Some have taken more advanced, specialized training while others have not. Some will focus on teaching skills, such as problem-solving and communication skills. Others focus a lot providing you education. These may be effective for smaller issues, but for more entrenched problems, you want an experiential approach; one where lasting change actually occurs in session.

I recommend looking for a therapist who has had specialized training in Emotionally Focused Therapy. To be effective and long lasting, therapy has to get to the root of couple's problems; skills and lessons are inadequate when the real stuff starts to come up. You want a therapist who can help you bring up the real stuff and  be with you as you maneuver through those tough moments. Emotionally Focused Therapy is experiential therapy, change is happening in the moment and in the therapist's office. You're best served if the therapist is willing and confident about getting into those uncomfortable moments with you. The therapist should have a calm, supportive presence so that you feel comfortable, safe and respected. You want the therapist to be bias toward helping the relationship rather than finding fault in one of the partners or helping someone leave the relationship.

Lastly, I'd say trust your instincts. The most effective therapy won't give just quick fixes and how-tos. Each relationship is unique, and you want someone who works toward really getting to know yours. Its more about depth than speed. because ironically slower is faster in this kind of work. If you've tried a handful of sessions and it feels in your gut like its not really working for you, ask for a referral.

I hope this helps you find the right therapist. If you are still feeling stuck, or would like to work with me, I can be reached at (954) 951-8295 or fill out my "Let's Connect" form on the right side of this page. I look forward to hearing from you!

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